How to Be More Confident (& change the way you feel)

As we journey through life we can make up to 1000's of decisions every single day, with each one of these decisions being based on the emotional outcome we would like to experience by making it.

The greatest reason why most people do anything in life is to change the way they feel sometimes.

Whether you'd like to make more money, lose some weight, or buy a new phone, car or item of clothing, you make each decision based upon the expected and desired outcome you expect each decision will give you - generally, an emotion (which is usually to feel better, more confident, secure or significant) 

For example, you may believe that losing some bodyweight will allow you to feel more confident or give you improved self esteem. Or, by being in a relationship will make you feel more secure, loved and valued. Some people believe that making more money will be the remedy to feeling insignificant and insecure or of little value to the world.

The problem with all these things is that when we look to things on the 'outside of us' to fix some negative emotions on the 'inside of us', they are seldom able to do so for any longer than a very short period of time.

Most people wait and put off the emotions they want to experience, instead of realising the truth: you are capable of experiencing the emotions you really want to experience in life as soon as you learn to understand and take control of your thinking.

No one has the capability to produce thoughts - they come from somewhere else! However, we all have complete control over the thoughts that that we accept and the thoughts that we reject, because whatever thought we choose to focus on will determine the emotions we feel.

I'm going to produce as much free content as possible on this topic as it is one that's taken me a couple of years to be able to fully grasp.

The best way that I'm able to define the steps you can take to change the way you feel sometimes are:

• Become aware that you are completely in control of choosing the thoughts that you focus on.
• You do not produce the thoughts in the first place - they come from somewhere else.
• You ARE NOT your thoughts.
• You ARE NOT your feelings.
• With self-discipline you CAN learn to POLICE your thoughts and choose to accept the good ones, then likewise, completely reject the ones that are not serving you well.
• Your thoughts produce emotions.
• Your emotions produce your actions and responses.
• Your actions and responses produce the outcomes you experience in your like that ultimately enhance your emotions.
• If you can change your thinking, you can change your life's outcomes.

I understand that I've provided a lot of quite complex information in this Vlog, but for you to get a better understanding of what I'm sharing here, please subscribe to my YouTube channel where I'll be making regular posts on this topic with hopefully a few more impacting insights.

Kain

http://www.kainramsay.com